07 Jun “Life Is Relationships and the Rest Is Just Details”
God has a relational heart, he tells us all about it in Genesis. Yep, right at the beginning He wants us to know where he stands on us! “Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” ( Genesis 1:26) So, we are all created in the image of our God and with a capacity for relationships. Our number one relationship is the relationship with our Heavenly Father followed by the relationship we have with one another.
It is a known fact that anything left to natural devices will decay and rot if not attended to so it is with our relationships. We need to tend to them as over time things happen in the relationship that wear it out. Our fallible humanity means we can hurt one another and our relationships will suffer if we don’t take time to mend and nurture them.
When Jesus was asked about divorce in the gospels His response was to go back to the beginning of relationships in the book of Genesis, in order to understand what brings a marriage relationship to divorce. Divorce doesn’t just happen; over time when issues are not addressed in the marriage they weaken the relationship and drain the joy out it.
I have whittled it down to three things that are important in every relationship. For singles who are aspiring to get married preparation is key, most people prepare for a wedding but don’t prepare for a marriage. A marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. Preparation includes reading books about marriage and relationships that can help prepare your heart for marriage. Preparation is like taking driving lessons. It doesn’t mean you will never have an accident but you get on the road with knowledge. Preparation enables you to address some of the deficits or hurts in your family of origin or anything on your journey that impacts the way you relate; it is not about being perfect but bringing a healthy self to your marriage.
Every relationship, including the relationships with your spouse, children, family and friends will go through periods of challenges and conflict. However, in order to have healthy relationships we need to address the areas of struggle in the relationship. Repairing the areas of strain in the relationship will strengthen the relationship. Confrontation does not have to be hostile the bible gives us instruction on how to deal with this by speaking the truth always in love. You can’t have a healthy relationship without forgiveness. Let it go, give it to God, forgive and be free!
Renewal of our relationship is the third key factor to the health and longevity of the relationship. In the same way that you bring new life to a home after a period of time by painting the house, putting in new windows or a general redecorating the house will give new life to the home so it is with our relationships. We regularly do things that bring revive and sustain the relationship. In marriage it will be great to go on that honeymoon you could not afford when you first got married or even renew your vows to one another. We can solidify our relationships with one another by celebrating the gains on the journey and celebrating one another. In Praise Christian Centre our motto is “Celebrating Jesus and you”, so as you celebrate Christ, celebrate one another!
Cherish and tend to all your relationships. Value those God has put in your life to travel with you.
Remember Jesus loves you and there is nothing you can do about it,
Pastor Kofi Banful
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